The world can be so much better without liars. How we wish we can see through a person and determine whether he/she is lying or not. Unfortunately, we can only rely on a person’s innate goodness and build trust gradually. If they are telling the truth, we could not ask for more. But what if they are not telling the truth?
If they are not telling the truth, normally, we can only hope that they will see the errors of their ways. Liars are everywhere and we should all be wary of them. But it’s not easy to know when we’re being lied to. Some experts say that a liar is not capable to hold steady gaze but take Bernard Madoff for example. Madoff was the Ponzi scheme con man. He is known to establish steady and confident gaze as he defrauded his clients who trusted him with billions.
Good liars know how to cover up common signs of deceit so we should arm ourselves with knowledge on how to catch them. Keep in mind that even the skilful liars can be caught. Consider the following to spot liars before you become their next victim:
- Ask for a very specific detail: When someone fabricates a lie, they tend to forget specific details. When you feel that that person is lying, you should ask for a very specific detail without implying too much. For example, you can ask how they travel for work and if they give a bus number – it can be verified easily.
- Observe when he/she is telling the truth: The first thing that you should do is establish a baseline. Police will usually ask the address of the suspect and from his/her reaction, establish the baseline. Once a baseline has been established, you can now ask open-ended questions, and from there, you can observe the changes in the person’s verbal and nonverbal behaviour.
- Let them talk: In an effort to cover everything, liars tend to talk too much. Let them talk and even accept irrelevant details. Liars will give too much information (more than you requested) and in excess of details.
These signs can be pretty messed up if you do not know what to do or how to proceed. If you are having troubles determining such, you have to practice even more and learn. In this world, you have to think that people lie to gain something and if you are not quick about spotting them, you might end up losing everything to them.