How to Overcome Fear of Rejection

In life, we fear a lot of things and it is completely natural. What’s not natural is not acknowledging it until it becomes too overwhelming and we cannot do anything about it. Fear is good because it keeps us alert, sane and safe. However, it is time that we face your fears and not hold back.


Surely, more opportunities will spring if we do not hold back. This article will reveal tips on how to overcome your fear of rejection. The fear of rejection is widespread not only here in Singapore but around the world. Losing approval from others is difficult but if you linger more, you are bounded hence you cannot do more.
It is time that you take charge of the fear and transform it positively. Here are some tips on how to overcome your fear of rejection:

• Remember times when you’d felt rejected: You fear rejection because you had past experiences. It is important that you remember the times when you’d felt rejected and contemplate on that. It may not be easy pinpointing the exact moment but for a start, you can close your eyes and imagine going back to the past.

• Now, think differently: Transforming your thoughts is very difficult especially if fear is imminent. However, you have to try. Again, close your eyes and use your creativity or imagination and rehearse the feeling of getting relaxed. Do this over and over again until you convince yourself that no harm will come to you. Experts usually use hypnosis to direct how one feels so he/she can think differently.


• Sometimes, distrust your assumptions: The thing is, when you make assumptions, you are almost sure of yourself that that person does not like you. What if you are wrong? Sometimes, you have to distrust your assumptions and go take that plunge. There are times that being less sure is less complicated than already determining the result.

• Assure yourself that you will survive and thrive: Actually, any kind of fear will lead everyone to think that it will be the ‘end of the world’. If you think this way, the more power the fear will yield. You need to assure yourself that it will not be the ‘end of the world’ for you because plenty of opportunities will come. If you think and assure yourself that you will survive and thrive despite the rejection, it will surely give you confidence.

If someone rejects us, we now know better. Do not for a second think that you are ‘destined to be alone’ or unlovable’.


On Improving Skills: Learning Strategies  


If heading back to school is not an option as of this time or if we are looking for something while waiting for school to start, what better way to spend time than improving our skills? It is important that we do not waste our time if we want to be distinguished from the rest.


The good news is that there are different strategies that we can consider on improving our skill sets. We only need commitment and everything will follow. Here are the learning strategies that we should consider while waiting for school to start:

  • Virtual libraries: Nothing beats the feel of holding a book in a library however, modern technology allows us to download or stream virtual libraries with one click. There are many Singaporeans who consider virtual libraries because they are more economical and interactive not to mention the libraries are filled with thousands of media pretty much every topic under the sun. If we are looking to attend a virtual talk or seminar, this is the thing that we need. We only need to download iTunes and browse their iTunes University category.
  • Massively Open Online Courses: Massively Open Online Courses also called MOOC are interactive collaborations between educational institutions. MOOC websites offer different websites with various materials like problem sets, reading and videos of classes being streamed online for students worldwide. The good thing is that these courses are free. Many Singaporeans consider this but we do not normally use the completed courses to beef up our resumes.


  • Formal distance learning: Formal distance learning refer to students learning from instructors through print, video and other digital materials. The students are then assessed online or at designated learning centre.
  • Learning MS Excel: Learning MS Excel is an important skill set today. There are myriad of short videos that will teach us the basics and later advanced areas of MS Excel. The best part is that we can download files that we can use to practice.
  • Learning a new language: Learning a new language can make a difference at the end of the day. Perhaps Duolingo can help us in this endeavour. The website gives user exercises in order to learn new languages.
  • Getting to know modern oral history: Who says inspiration is hard to find? We can find inspiration from the narrations of modern people regarding life, love and work. There’s the StoryCorps that we can consider.

These strategies will surely equip us with the necessary skill and knowledge. Now that we know that strategies, we should not waste time and consider these at once.